Jeffrey James Heynen

Jeffrey James Heynen, born on October 10, 1949, in Bay City, Michigan, passed away peacefully on the morning of May 7, 2025, at his home in Palm Springs, California. After bravely facing stage IV prostate cancer for over a decade, Jeffrey left this world as he lived—with quiet strength, gratitude, and without complaint. In his final years, he often spoke of how thankful he was for the gift of life. He was deeply loved by his family and the many whose lives he touched.

Jeffrey cherished his Michigan roots, fondly recalling adventures from his childhood: riding bikes around Saginaw Bay, sipping Coca-Colas, and the wild fun of BB guns and .22 rifles at the shack on Bear Creek. He treasured his school days, serving proudly as head altar boy at St. James Catholic School (later All Saints) and leading as senior class president, remembered by many simply as "the nicest guy." Jeffrey was ever fond of the dance floor, and Friday night school dances were among his happiest memories—dancing, for him, was pure joy, a passion he carried throughout his life. His Bay City friendships remained precious to him, and he worked hard to keep those connections alive.

A proud Michigan State Spartan, Jeffrey’s college experiences and friendships remained a wellspring of joy and inspiration. He was a lifelong fan and loyal supporter of his alma mater.

Hospitality wasn’t just something Jeffrey offered—it was who he was. Whether at work or among friends, he created a welcoming space for everyone, always prioritizing “we” over “I” and ensuring people felt seen, heard, and valued. Behind a bar or hosting a gathering, he had a natural gift for defusing tension and making strangers feel like old friends. His presence balanced seriousness and playfulness, transforming ordinary moments into treasured memories.

Jeffrey’s heart shone brightest as a father and family man. He was a steady, calming presence for his sons and for countless others who looked to him as a father figure. He was the coach who made sure every kid had a chance to play, the parent whose cheers soared above the crowd, and the helper who stayed until everything was cleaned up and packed away. When life gave him the chance, he didn’t hesitate to leave his lifelong home in Michigan to be with his wife and sons in California—a testament to his deep, abiding love for his family.

Jeffrey dearly loved his wife, Carolee. Together, they were a shining pair—when they danced, they didn’t just take to the floor; they owned it, filling the space with their joy and spirit. Their love was a partnership built on care, support, and commitment.

Jeffrey carried a quiet philosophy that shaped his life: he believed “the easy way is the hard way, and the hard way is the easy way.” He believed in doing the right thing, consistently, even when no one was watching - on doing what he could do. He lived by a simple but powerful credo: “Faith. Hope. Charity. Trust. Choose Good.”

Jeffrey was preceded in death by his parents, Martin and Sally Heynen, his brother William (Bill) Heynen, and many dear friends and extended family. He is survived by his sister Dwyn, his beloved wife Carolee, his sons Martin and Mickey, and their families, including his cherished grandsons Jeffrey Tomas, Theo, and Clint, along with extended and beloved family.

The family will announce memorial services to be held in the coming months in both California and Michigan.

Jeffrey’s warmth, kindness, and joyful spirit will be deeply missed and forever remembered.